Single Moms, Be on The Look Out For a Guy Like This

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It wasn’t too long ago that women were expected to work in the house, raise their kids, and succumb to their husband’s every need. As if. Now and ever since, women have been changing these roles, becoming more independent. Not just any man can handle the modern day self-sufficient woman, you need to keep an eye out for a man who’s past such archaic gender roles and is understanding of your needs as an individual.

Confidence is way hotter than any 6-pack or perfect smile

It’ll turn your head in a bar, and keep your eyes locked on a man who walks straight up to you with no hesitation.

You don’t really go out on the town as a prowler, to lurk in the corner trying to figure out which guy is the hottest to talk to – it aint your thang.

A man who approaches you shows initiative, and lets you know that he is secure with himself as a person. Continues on the next pages…

He isn’t overbearing in the slightest

He doesn’t bombard you with texts, calls, sweet Facebook posts; the works.

To you, being the independent woman that you are, this comes off as needy.

You like a guy who doesn’t need to hear how much you love him every hour throughout the day – I mean, c’mon, you’re busy!

But he still shows you he cares

Don’t mistake him giving you space as negligence.

You won’t let him get away with forgetting your birthday, but he is thoughtful when the time is right.

He knows when and where to show that he cares, and honestly, that makes his grand gestures that much more special to you.

Doing your own thing will get no objections from him

He respects your need for a life outside of the relationship.

If you have an extravagant night planned with your girls, you don’t need to give a long explanation to your man about it. He just gets it.

He doesn’t need to be needed

Your independence is a virtue, and it’s one of the things he loves most about you. He is aware that you chose him, and he feels cherished that you want him, but don’t need him.

But when you do need him, he’s always going to be there.

As much as you’d like to think that you’ve got it all, and, most of the time you do, there are those moments when nothing in the world will better a situation like your man will.

Remember that time you were stuck in the fetal position on the bathroom floor suffering from a deathly case of food poisoning?

He took, I’m okay, it’s no big deal, as, I don’t want to admit it, but I do, kinda… sorta… really fucking need you right now.

Stubbornness is one of the traits he loves most about you: he loves that you have a do-it-yourself attitude.

You know how to do things on your own, go places by yourself, and fix things that most girls don’t know how to fix.

So, when an obstacle comes your way making one of these things impossible for you to do, it’s not so easy for you to ask for help.

He’ll sit back, let you try, and won’t insist on giving you help. He finds it endearing when you’re stubborn.

But he doesn’t let it get in the way of him breaking down your walls: he knows when and when not to push.

He’ll know how to offer help without belittling you. But breaking down your walls emotionally runs a little deeper– plus, most guys don’t know how to do this with you.

Sometimes I got it, really straight up means I GOT IT. But other times, it doesn’t, and he’s learned to decode your cryptic-convoluted-female-language.

And he understands that being independent makes you an individual: you want to be your best self before you give everything to someone else.

Some girls started planning their wedding day at age seven. You were not one of them. In fact, your wedding isn’t really something that you daydream about all day long.

That doesn’t mean that it’s not in your future. And your guy understands that just because you’re not pawning after a man, designing an engagement right now, doesn’t mean that you wouldn’t one day want to wear a ring.

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